Last Updated on May 27, 2024

What makes a “successful” hypnotist or coach?

What makes for a “successful” hypnotist or coach?

I’ve been reflecting a lot on that recently.

I’ve concluded there are three main areas to grow in:

  1. Self Development
  2. Facilitation Skills
  3. Business Development

Self Development

Like many people, I got into hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming to fix myself.

I was obsessed with self development for many years.

Some would say I still am! 😄

I was motivated to do inner work because I thought there was something deeply wrong with me, and I needed to fix it.

I no longer think of myself — or anyone else! — as fundamentally broken.

But that inner development was extremely valuable nonetheless.

I think it makes me a highly congruent coach, because I can speak from experience.

I know in my bones it’s possible to change.

Because I’ve done “the impossible” many times over.

I still aim to do some sort of self-hypnosis or meditation every day.

The better my state, the more I can be of benefit.

While there is always more we can develop, I consider myself an expert in self development.

I’ve really figured some stuff out here!

I went “deeper and deeper” into self development, and I’m really happy I did.

Facilitation Skills

Just doing your own work isn’t sufficient to be a great coach or hypnotist though.

A great basketball player doesn’t automatically make a great basketball coach.

You also need to have specific skills to facilitate the results in others.

I’ve been working on my facilitation skills for over 2 decades.

I’ve mentored with the best people in my field.

I’ve taken loads of trainings, and even taught my own.

So I’d like to think I’m an expert at this stuff too now.

There are infinite techniques of course, and I haven’t mastered them all.

There is always more to learn.

But I can do a lot of this stuff in my sleep now!

It’s just second nature.

The Dollar Store Coach

I first started coaching people in 2003, when I was just 24 years old.

I started by simply offering free coaching, because I thought it would be fun.

At the time, I was living in a hippie co-op with 14 people.

So it was easy to find volunteers.

Right away people said, “That was really good, you should charge money for this.”

So I decided to charge one dollar.

After my first $1 session, my client said, “This is worth more than a dollar” and gave me $20.

That was four times more per hour than I was making at my job.

At the time I was doing web design for a cult and being paid illegally low wages. 😆

So I was just happy to be paid anything to do this fun coaching stuff.

But then I thought, “hey wait, maybe this could be a job too.”

Business Development

Even though I started developing my coaching business 21 years ago now, I still have a lot to learn about business development.

In fact, I consider myself still a beginner at it!

I know a lot of theories about growing your email list, or getting on podcasts, and so on.

But I haven’t really put the time into actually trying these things out to see what works.

Everything is a Skill

I know some hypnotists who had a full private practice 6 months after taking their first certification.

They were still beginners at self development and facilitation, but somehow became experts at business fast.

I used to think there was something wrong with me that I wasn’t as “successful.”

I only recently realized, “duh, business development is also a skill!”

So it’s something anyone can learn and get better at.

Maybe even me! 😛

I realized this because I’m (finally) working with my own money beliefs.

In fact, I’m right in the middle of teaching a class called Transforming Money Fears Masterclass.

If you want, you can still join us for the third and final week (and catch up on the first two weeks with the recording).

I’m actually kind of excited to be a beginner at something!

It means there is going to be a lot of learning in my future.

Take care,