Last Updated on December 4, 2023

Know your “why”

Everyone wants to make changes in their lives.

But often we fail to do what would get us there.

Even when we really, really want it.

Why We Fail to Follow Through

There are two main reasons why people fail to do what they intend.

Both have to do with forgetting.

Either we forget what we intended to do.

Or we forget why we intended to do it.

The first problem to solve is to remember what to do.

Maybe that means writing it down on a to-do list.

Or creating an alarm to remind us when we plan to start.

But sometimes we remember the what, but don’t want to do it!

We see it on the to-do list, but say to ourselves, “I’ll do it later.”

We lack “motivation.”

That’s because we have forgotten our “motive,” our reason for acting.

Remembering Your Why

If you intended to do something, it’s because of some reason.

So if you lack “motivation,” it might be as simple as remembering your why.

If you take something on your to-do list you don’t want to do, you can ask yourself questions like…

  • Why did I put this on my list in the first place?
  • What’s important to me about getting this done?
  • Who will I benefit if I get this done?

For me, I often find I go through layers before really feeling a change.

At first I might answer, “I need to get this done because so-and-so told me to do it.”

Ok, but that’s not motivating yet.

Why did they tell me to do it?

“Because it will help move the project forward.”

Still not feeling it.

And why do I want to move the project forward? Who will it benefit?

I keep going like this until I feel a change in feeling.

Often this is warm fuzzies from imagining the people who benefit.

Or a feeling of excitement or enthusiasm.

Then as I’m feeling that feeling, I begin the task.

I know I’m capable of doing things out of frustration and annoyance.

But I’d rather do things out of love and joy.

We might call it a “why to do list” instead of a “what to do list.”

Try this out for yourself and let me know how it goes for you!

Until next time,
~Duff