Last Updated on January 22, 2024

Dehypnotizing yourself

Often when a new client explains their problem to me, I feel confused.

They explain it as “clearly reality works this way.”

But from my point of view, that isn’t how reality is working at all!

It’s as if they are stuck in a trance state.

The Map is Not the Territory

We all do this when we are stuck, me included.

We hypnotize ourselves to believe that our map of reality is reality itself.

But as Alfred Korzybski was fond of saying, “The map is not the territory.”

So a lot of what us hypnotists actually do is de-hypnotize people.

Trances We Live By

Sometimes it’s the “have to” trance.

“I have to do this, and I have to do it in a particular way.”

Even when we have to do something to survive, it doesn’t have to be a stressful experience.

We “have to” eat food, but meals with friends can be one of the most enjoyable things in life.

Sometimes it’s the “can’t” trance.

“I really want to do this thing, but I can’t. It’s impossible.”

Reality is rarely as limited as our maps about reality.

Even when there is a real obstacle, there are always things we can try.

These trances are needlessly stressful ways to live.

Choose Your Trance

In fact, probably all stress has a “have to” or a “can’t” in there somewhere.

Luckily there are ways we can exit these trances.

And then we remember we have choice about which trances we choose.

There are healing trances, empowering trances, and kind and compassionate trances.

There are flow state trances and joyful expression trances.

And those are a lot more fun!

Which trances would you like to experience today?

Take care,
~Duff