What I Don’t Work With
I specialize in helping creative, neurodivergent people with their productivity problems.
That means I don’t work with everything. Specifically I don’t work with…
- Suicidal depression and self-harm
- Active panic attacks
- Psychosis, schizophrenia, or other breaks with consensus reality
- Quitting smoking, vaping, and other tobacco products
- Quitting alcohol or drugs
- Sexual health issues like anorgasmia, premature ejaculation, or pornography consumption
- Any diagnosis or treatment of mental illness (see a psychotherapist or psychiatrist)
- Past-life regression
It’s OK if you want to work with any of these things. You’ll just need to see someone else for that.
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How long will it take to get my outcome(s)?
The only honest answer is “nobody knows.”
For 15 years or so as a coach, I was very much outcome focused. Now I no longer consider “getting your outcome” to be the main criteria for success in coaching.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s OK to have goals. I think human beings are goal-oriented creatures. I have plenty of goals myself. I am extremely ambitious in fact.
It’s just that many people get what they want and are still deeply unhappy. What happens for a Super Bowl champion a week after winning the Super Bowl? Life goes on. For some people, achieving a big goal can lead to an identity crisis!
In addition, a person can pursue their outcome in a way that ruins their life. Many people do! Just look around at the successful and powerful, the rich and famous. Few are happy, healthy, loving, and wise. Sacrificing health or relationships or ethics to get ahead comes at a high price.
So to me a better question than “how long will it take” is “how can I pursue my outcome in a way that enriches my life and the lives of people around me even if I fail?” Because if you can turn “failure” into success, you always win, no matter what you do.
And my clients do typically get their outcomes too.
Trying to get your outcome as quickly as possible however is a mindset called “impatience” and ironically often makes the process take longer. The impatient person, thirsty for results, digs many shallow puddles instead of one deep well.
Whereas practicing patience and persistence, curiosity and forgiveness for when you fail, that’s where the good stuff lies.
What methodologies, techniques, or protocols do you use? I’ve already tried “everything.”
I’ve collected change techniques for over two decades. At this point in my understanding, I believe that it’s not about the specific technique employed. There are many wonderful ways to change, and no one-size-fits-all.
Techniques, protocols, methodologies, these solve for known problems. But you are an experiment of one. No one has ever solved your unique problem before! Furthermore, if you’re a client of mine, you’re probably neurodivergent, which means neurotypical protocols weren’t designed for you.
Whatever actually works for you is the ultimate technique. That very well might involve inventing a new technique entirely. I’ve invented several dozen methods just to solve my own problems!
Beyond techniques there are the attitudes, mindsets, belief systems, or paradigms that lead to change. Most people who haven’t figured out their problems have upside down and backwards paradigms that keep them stuck. For instance things like “fear of failure” which keep a person from just enthusiastically running experiment after experiment until something works!
One of those backwards paradigms is “I just need to find the right technique, then I’ll be fixed.” Whereas I often make up new techniques for each client on the spot! It’s not about techniques at all, it’s about an experimental attitude.
Instead of tedious techniques, pre-given protocols, or mindless methodologies, I say let’s get wildly creative. Spontaneity is the name of the game. Can you learn to flow with life? Can you learn to enjoy designing new solutions to novel problems? Learning this meta-skill will allow you to address anything that comes your way. It will even make you a better employee, lover, and friend.
Yes, I can also facilitate dozens and dozens of techniques I’ve learned and memorized over the years, like Core Transformation, or all the standard NLP and HNLP patterns, hypnosis inductions, and so on.
But what I prefer to do is something I’ve never done before! This is why I love working with clients who have tried “everything” (a ridiculous notion, because there is always something else to try). I like to work with weird problems that haven’t resolved using standard techniques. Protocols are boring. Now creativity, that’s where the interesting stuff is!
If you want someone to facilitate a technique, lots of people do that. But if you want to get weird, think outside the box, or get a radically new perspective on your problem, that’s my jam.